How to Beat a Bully

Or peer pressure or critical, snide, backhanded complimenting a-holes…

Wait. Let me throw out a disclaimer here. There are many situations wherein this poem and its approach will be too oversimplified to be effective. But still it can’t hurt to hold her (Mother Theresa) words in our hearts and minds. It has taken me sooooooo long to be willing to do what Mother Theresa is paraphrasing here from Dr. Kent M. Keith. He wrote it in 1968 as part of a booklet for student leaders.

I printed it out, folded up copies and drove to the public library today. There, I went to the children’s section and in the junior section (eight and younger) as well as the youth (tweeners/teens) there was a healthy selection of books offered to guide children through teasing, bullying and peer pressure.

I put a copy of this poem in about twenty books combined. I think I got every book in the youth section for sure.

Sauntering through the aisles, making my way to the door, my adrenaline pumping wondering if I was on hidden camera, I set a copy on each empty reading table as well and scurried out to my car. In this day and age could that be construed as vandalism?

Doesn’t matter – the b*stards didn’t catch ha-HA!

I pray that poem brings someone the courage they need to be the fabulous self they are instead of crumpling under the jealous, mean, miserable, HURTING f*ckers that are taunting them. Whether it’s a parent, a teacher or kids at school, don’t let their words and tiny little hearts and minds win.




People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.  Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.  Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.  Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.  Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.  Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.  Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.  Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God.

It was never between you and them anyway.

this version is credited to Mother Teresa

One Comment

  1. Kelly Mobeck says:

    Thank you Anne Other, these are words I really needed to hear this morning. I figure what’s occurring for one is occurring for all at some level, so am paying it forward today and printed out copies and will leave them on my travels. Thank you for the blessing. xo

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